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I am by nature a very inquisitive person and I love questioning things and then answering them myself. Here you will find sometimes senseless and sometimes sensible ramblings about a wise host of things. If you do not agree upon my viewpoint I warmly welcome debates! :)

The Theory of Impossibility

Back during my schooldays, I used to be a lawn tennis player which meant that all holidays were spent camping out at the courts right from daybreak. During this time the court attracts a lot of newbies from all age groups. Among them, the kids section always comes in as a combo-pack with its own customized cluster of over-excited parents who expect to see their sons/daughters turn prodigies within the year (which is quite understandable :P).

One of those kids was a cute, chubby, 8-year-old chap called Sahil. Now Sahil’s father was a die-hard fan of the tennis legend John McEnroe and was determined that his kid be left-handed like him as well. Sahil being right-handed found it extremely difficult to cope up and predictably started to nurture an intense dislike for the game itself. When our coach cited this problem to his father, it was simply over-ruled by the age-old saying;

Nothing is impossible.

Well, today that kid is 17 years old and he is a star footballer in his school – which goes to prove that he had the aptitude for sports but missed his chance with lawn tennis where he would’ve stood a much better chance at making it big. But football being a game of eleven offers him very meek chances of making it big and therefore he is all set to get into a regular B.Com. or B.Sc. next year.

Well the conclusion? If anything, our dear old Mr. Nothing-Is-Impossible had achieved an impossibility in the chance that the boy might, under any circumstances, actually enjoy tennis.

Now why is impossibility considered impossible? Is it not a self-contradictory theory by itself?


The Theory of Impossibility

A lot of people I find, do not know where to stop or when to call an end. More often than not, it is not because one is unaware of the impossible for him/her to slog on but actually the fact that his/her ego is at stake in accepting defeat. Humility is for sure and important component for success.
It is very VERY important to realize and give up gracefully when you are beaten because when you don’t appreciate defeat, you are actually unworthy of success. By acknowledging that something is impossible, you not only save time, but you also save a lot of energy and thought that might be spent on the quest otherwise. Donkey-slogging has never been of use to anyone.
Look at it as a competitive examination where the question paper contains 60 problems and you are given an hour to solve them. If you answer right, you get 2 marks while a wrong answer loses you 1 mark. How would you go about it? What do you think would be your approach towards the paper? Would you actually try to solve everything? Or would you skip the more difficult ones? (maybe save them for when you will be done with the easier ones)

I am not of course asking you here to give up on everything as a rule. The point that I am trying to drive home is:
It is essential at any walk of life and its decisions to develop in yourself a keen sense of analysis so that you are made able to spot differences between the ‘Possibles’ and the ‘Impossibles’ instantly.

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Posted by on November 30, 2010 in "A word to the wise!" Simpleton.

 

Which came first – ‘The Thought’ or ‘Who Bought’?

All the world’s gold and grain cannot replace man’s old brain…

Whenever I think of creativity, or thinking different I’ve always wondered… “Who am I thinking for?” Of course, I’d want to create just so that it exists… But then, it exists for? Who will pay for it? Do them paymasters have a say in my head?

A lot has been spoken for and against over several years of different civilizations. I mean, look at history. Every time someone came up with a ground-breaking idea, people always spoke against it. Why so?

I personally feel that there is a Pandora’s box of reasons for the reaction, some of which I shall state here.

  1. Fear of the unknown: Everybody fears the unknown. That which is known and certain has bordered success or consequences while that which is unheard and unseen is always alien. A known enemy has a defined destruction mode which can be tapped into if he/she proves to be dangerously successful. Such is the mindset of the people who matter i.e; the middlemen of the idea.
  2. Fear of failure: Every breakthrough spurns a previous one – and several people who have acknowledged its accuracy. It’s funny that more than the person who actually achieves the breakthrough (who was sure to have been antagonized to the core when he/she did by the way) the people who follow those ideas are the ones that get paranoid when a revision or an entirely new idea happens. The feeling in question here is Ego – A denial of fault.
  3. Fear of success – yours: Nothing displeases others more than someone who succeeds by proving his/her predecessors wrong – seeing as they have now been owned by our dear examiners! It is a simple human vice called jealousy.

Having understood the above arguments we can draw up the following conclusions.

Theory of Counter-Thought

Now that we understand the reception scenario, how does the process of creation work best? What is the formula for the best idea?

The answer is simple. It depends… on the integrity of the thinker.

Every human mind is capable of a unique thought at the same time. What is best for one may not be the best for the other which omits the whole concept of ‘the best idea’. That which is best can always be bettered and the whole thinking process is volatile and devoid of a tangible route.

Hence, the only voice that counts while thinking is your very own. You are answerable to no other. And your idea is only as good as your faith in it.

However, in a person, the strength of idea and depth of intellect are two different departments. I shall share my theories on this subject in my forthcoming posts…

 
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Posted by on November 23, 2010 in "A word to the wise!" Simpleton.

 

The Electronic Configuration Of People Theory

An increased sense of foreboding… Only one question remains, ‘do I delve deeper?’

How often have you felt that you have been taken for a ride by somebody? How often have you felt that your little secret is ‘insecure’ with someone? Did you trust the wrong person?  Yes?

WRONG!

Let me tell you why…

Everybody at some point of time in their lives make the mistake of getting judgmental over someone. Once and more, we keep laboring under the delusion that we have wizened up after the last mishap and are now better at scrutinizing people. Some of us even go to the extent of sketching out the character of a person and defining the torrid and frigid zones of his/her character. Only, we are woefully mistaken.

Every human, please note – EVERY human is simple in essence. The basic cores (very similar to what you might have read in my previous post on the intra-division of humans) are all important and form the crux of their decisions. It is therefore ultra-essential to understand those cores in order to play safe.

Following below is a simple theory of mine illustrating why/what/when/how people do what they do.

This is based on the electronic configuration of atoms.

The drawing on the left shows a carbon atom with 6 protons, 6 neutrons and 6 electrons.

An atom is the nucleus which is a cluster of protons and neutrons. The protons have a positive electric charge while the neutrons are electrically neutral. The nucleus makes up almost all of an atom's mass or weight. Whirling at fantastic speeds around the nucleus are smaller and lighter particles called electrons which have a negative electric charge.
An extremely powerful force, called the nuclear force, holds the protons together in the nucleus as they naturally repelled one another electrically.
The atoms of each chemical element have a different nucleus.

For the benefit of those commerce students reading this post (not to rule out my dear science group back-benchers as well ;-)), the electrons on the outermost shell/ring are unstable and are ready to move out of their orbits or accommodate new ones in order to attain an inert configuration (8 electrons on the outermost shell). People are the same.

Humans will move from one circle to another in search of stability. The intensity of the bond may vary according to how he/she is placed – the outermost shell or an inner one, but unstable they will be! It is therefore unwise to completely trust anyone as they will eventually tend to drift away from your circle to a neighboring one when the latter offers better stability. Everybody has an animal core which thinks of nobody, or even better, nothing except itself.

Always bear in mind that whoever shares the relationship with you is your champion adversary. It is him/her that you need to outsmart in terms of the make-believe mandates. There are a number of possible reactions a person might come up with for a given situation in order of their emotional priority. These are not unpredictable from the concerned person if you knew them for sometime (spot the patterns – every move of your adversary is to be carefully studied and remembered).

Armed with this knowledge, you must learn to trust yet suspect when you deal with people. Trust is a very vital component in mortality because that defines many of the relationships. Giving second chances is very important because everything does not happen in one take. But what is more important is the detachment that you need to master along with trust.

The all-important factor in relationships with people is what I call the VACUUM OF SOLACE. The relationship should be built in such a way that a fall is cushioned for both sides (more importantly your own). The equation below will I think elaborate the scene much better than sentences.


Trust => Attachment
Suspicion => Detachment

Trust + Detachment :: Attachment + Suspicion

=> Trust – Attachment :: Suspicion – Detachment

Hence,

Relationship status = Null.


In case of a simple mismatch,

Trust + Attachment :: Suspicion + Detachment

=> EMOTIONAL EXCESS :: DISASTER

Hence,

Relationship status = Imbalanced.

 

Manipulating people is WRONG! Developing people is RIGHT!

Lets round-up this post with a small exercise for you:

Consider a hypothetical situation – A classic example of the core instinct of humans.

The Prisoner's Dilemna...

You and your friend (currently the closest) are arrested by the police. The police have insufficient evidence for a conviction, and, having separated both of you, visit each to offer the same deal. If one testifies for the prosecution against the other (defects) and the other remains silent (cooperates), the defector goes free and the silent accomplice receives the full 10-year sentence. If both of  you remain silent, both of you are sentenced to only six months in jail for a minor charge. If each of you betrays the other, each receives a five-year sentence. Each of you must choose to betray the other or to remain silent. Both of you are assured that the other would not know about the betrayal before the end of the investigation.

How would you expect you and your friend to act?

 
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Posted by on November 19, 2010 in "A word to the wise!" Simpleton.

 

A conflict of cores.

Everything in essence is bifurcated – A pro and a con. This segmentation denotes the two cores. Positive and negative, as in a battery without either of which, functioning would be impossible. These terminals work separately but yet in tandem towards a singular final objective.

Applying this rule, man is divided as well. There are two core instincts to every man’s character – The emotional creator and the diplomatic business man.

The Creator

An idea is a delicate thing. Frailer still, is the creator’s heart. It can be killed by a sneer or a yawn. It can be stabbed to death by sarcasm and worried to death by a frown on the audiences’ face.

St. Nomad

The creator is widely known as an arrogant hooligan who considers himself higher than God. But in actuality, he is an insecure being who tries desperately not to be obvious about it. He lives in constant fear of rejection. Over-confidence, arrogance, etc are the different designer cloaks used by this creature to hide his fear. But the fully evolved specimen outgrows this particular fear and goes on to win over the hearts of millions with his creations.

To the Creator, his idea is his baby and he caresses it with a wild motherly passion. A word about it, and you are erased off his planet!

This man practices madness as a virtue. The farther he withdraws from reality, the better he gets. Impracticality is his privilege.

While the Creator is capable of bowling people over with his works, he is not very acceptable as a person. People need to notice his idea without prejudice against him in order to appreciate it in the first place. Hence he is just an end.

The negative terminal.

The Businessman

Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.

Calvin Coolidge

The businessman swears by this rule. He is the one who understands the importance of an audience and knows the exact way to ensure that his work is noticed. He is in no hurry because he knows exactly what he is and what he is capable of. This man is seldom interested in his perception of things unless he is sure that they would work. By and large he goes by the mass mentality. He is a people’s man and believes in biding his time. Common sense is his key!

People find him extremely intriguing and sometimes even more talented than he actually might be. This charm sometimes leads the businessman into a dangerous web of lies, a disease from which recovery is normally very tough.

He forms the positive terminal.

The balance of these two cores decide the ultimate character of a person. Everyman needs to have an original idea which needs to come from the Creator in him. Then he needs the Businessman in him to help sell the same. Inclination towards a side might be in some cases very beneficial but a near equal scale can make wonders when achieved!

But generally since these cores contradict each other, it is very rare a phenomenon to find them symmetrically placed in a person. For those who understand the importance of striking this balance, let me warn you. It is going to be a long tough fight, but in the end you will not regret it!

 
 

A total synthesis!

The human mind as we all know is a complex, many layered thing. Sheets of information laid layer after layer in order of importance. Understanding the human mind, I can safely state, has been one of man’s constant quests in spite of the taunting variety it offers which makes it impossible to qualify. I like to think of the general human perception as something close to a stock market. The more you try to time the market the more is at stake. However, a certain amount of safe play combined with some calculated risks opens up a whole new vista of opportunities. What is to be understood is that any market, is a multi-headed entity where each head is capable of a completely different thought from each other. Scary! Unfortunately every activity – at least every activity I’m into needs handling this monster. Hmphh. No pain no gain I suppose..